To make positive changes and live a ferociously happy & meaningful life, change needs to happen. But shifts and transformation are uncomfortable. If you want to transform, adjust your expectations and prepare yourself for a time of discomfort. If you expect it and allow it, you have a far better chance succeeding.
Choose quality over quantity, for me this means being mindful of what I choose to put in my body, who, and which habits I allow to take root. Food choices for example should be delicious and nutrient dense, every single mouthful at every meal….even when you are eating on the run. Don’t settle for just filling a hole with whatever is available. This may mean a bit of planning ahead, but your food choices needn’t be complicated or time consuming. Often the simple things are most delicious and satisfying. A bowl of perfectly made guacamole with some crunchy vegetable sticks and perhaps a few natural corn chips can be a fabulously satisfying and nourishing affair. Similarly, when choosing how to spend some you-time, be picky of who and what you let into that space. Only positive people and nurturing activities allowed!
Allow some creativity and playfulness back in. For me this means some silly dancing in the kitchen with my girls whilst cooking, or taking a mouth-watering picture of a new recipe. This is where I can play and be creative, and at the same time nourish my family and self. Sometimes it simply means taking 20 minutes out of a crazy day to flow through some of my favorite tension busting Yoga Postures. For you it could be a brisk walk or drive somewhere beautiful, or even just sitting in a coffee shop with your hands wrapped around a comforting hot drink, daydreaming happily. Whatever rocks your boat, make it happen…. and do it often
To stimulate your creative juices, hang out with the right folks, feel inspired by the beauty others create and celebrate it. Don’t say no to new opportunities, even if you think you can’t do it, just do it anyway, dive in at the deep end and learn to swim. When a good friend asked me to do some underwater yoga pictures I worried that I would be a disaster, and I was! But from the hundreds of pictures he took that day there were some really wonderful ones too, and I am so pleased I did it, it was a fabulous lesson in being buoyant and brave.
Be brave and ruthless in your pursuit of your best, healthiest life. Switch off your devices, fast a little, become quiet, do whatever it takes to screech this life that you are unhappy with to a halt, get off the bus and start walking in the opposite direction.
For me it meant switching off the television and tablet, and instead spend my evenings and free time writing and plotting my first cookbook. Being brave meant diving into the deep end of possible rejection and failure. It was a time of intense energy and creativity channeled into one project.
If you want to live your best life, start with what you are choosing to eat, clear out the kitchen (throw away any product your great granny wouldn’t have recognized). Re-arrange your kitchen and make it a beautiful space where you want to hang out. Spoil yourself with some gorgeous bowls and platters that will inspire you to fill it with delicious and nourishing food. Find some time to plan ahead, count colours on your plate instead of calories and make some time to awaken your senses.
Clear out your old tired habits and create new ones. Join an evening class, or Google a ‘How To ’and start a new project at home. Choose a positive community to surround yourself with and allow them to inspire you, let go of the ones who are dragging you down. It may mean saying; ‘fuck this shit’ (swearing can be very therapeutic)’ and being ruthless in your pursuit to change the landscape of your life. Clear out some of the old to make room for the new. And above all, be brave.
Marlien Wright is the author of the Cookbook’ The Yoga Kitchen – 100 Easy Superfood Recipes’, blogger, yogi, mom & bozo. She enjoys eating real food (and is highly suspicious of those who dislike food & cooking). She loves creating healthy foodporn and swearing silently. She believes that being healthy is sexy, insists on living authentically, honestly and diving in at the deep end. Keep an eye out for her next cookbook filled with gut health recipes and her The Secret Supper Club, where she will be sharing bi-monthly tips, recipes, nutrition news and health products: http://www.yogakitchen.co.za/secret-supper-club/